We’re paying a high price for giving in. By giving in, we are giving up what we want out of the relationship and out of life. We are not meeting our own needs when we are giving in, which often leads to resentment and bitterness towards the other. Resentment, if not expressed and dealt with, may lead to depression. I have seen these consequences show up more than once with my coaching clients, as well as in my own life. In every case, it damages the relationship we have with ourselves and with the other.
Here are 3 questions to ponder some more. Think of a situation in your professional or personal life where you were giving in – not matching what you were saying with what you were thinking.
- Why did I give in with this person?
- What has been the (professional/personal) price I had to pay for giving in?
- How could I/the relationship benefit from me speaking up next time?
Live the life you want to live. Be thankful, be courageous, be real