Coaching Blog
How Not Knowing Your Social Style Causes Conflict
Do you remember the first few weeks in your new job? Were you the one asking all the questions? Or did you dive in and give your opinion of how the job supposed to be done? Either way points out our individual strengths and the way we cope and manage tension in a...
The Key to a Conflict Free Life
Have you ever started a campfire that ended up being this annoying smoking pile of wood? It was a struggle to keep it going, because you’ve used wet fire starters or choked it with big blocks of wood? Well, I have. In all the years of camping, I’ve learned that it...
When Giving In = Giving Up, Part III
We're paying a high price for giving in. By giving in, we are giving up what we want out of the relationship and out of life. We are not meeting our own needs when we are giving in, which often leads to resentment and bitterness towards the other. Resentment, if not...
When Giving In = Giving Up, Part II
Last week you might have explored what your main reason is for giving in when there is the chance of an argument unfolding. What is your gain or loss when you give in? Giving in is not necessarily a bad thing to do. I can think of many situations when it is...
When Giving In = Giving Up, Part I
Have you ever had someone cancel a meeting with you several times? The other day a colleague re-scheduled a meeting with me for the third time in a row on very short notice and I said, "Oh that's okay! I understand that things can happen." I wanted to be nice to my...
Is Baggage Affecting Your Relationships?
I had so much fun shooting my very first video during my trip to Italy. Here is the result; let me know what you think! ARE YOU TRAVELING LIGHT? THE SECRET TO BUILDING DYNAMIC HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS. [video width="640" height="360"...
Do You Defend or Do You Prosper?
In her book, Taking the War Out of Our Words: The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication, Sharon Ellison estimates that we use 95% of our communications energy being defensive. As soon as we feel any threat, either of not getting what we want or of being put down...
How to bring Peace Dialogue back to the Kitchen Table and why it matters
On Sunday, September 21st people all over the world celebrate the 30th anniversary of International Peace Day. Now, more than ever, this day has meaning to all of us, the entire human race, so I wanted to share some thoughts about this day. To me, it sometimes feels...
The Key Tool Leaders Should Use to Improve the Way They Lead
The Key Tool Leaders Should Use to Improve the Way They Lead A couple of weeks ago I was in the position to deliver a difficult message to a leader in one of my client organizations. In advance, I had put quite some thought in how to formulate the message so that the...
Challenged with leading a virtual team?
Leaders in today’s global environment need to be competent in so much more than just business and strategic skills in order to be effective. Are you finding yourself struggle in keeping your team together, is your intercultural team unproductive or is there low engagement in your organization?